You see those confident and charismatic people out there mingling with everyone, looking like a million bucks, and you wish you could be just like them. But deep down, you’re held back by your insecurities and fear of being judged by others. I get it, it hurts.
Perhaps, at some point you have even given up and resigned that you’ll forever remain this way. Personally, I believe that insecurities can be overcome. Being insecure is a sign. It’s a sign that your self-esteem is high, probably a little too high. In a not-so-nice way of saying – you’re thinking far too highly of yourself. I want you to internalize this idea that you are indeed just a vessel. The reason for you to exist is to ship your work and bring value to others, that’s all. And if you don’t do even that, you’re depriving yourself from fulfilling this very fundamental of your purpose.
You need to start. Start small. Very, very small. You also need to grab hold of all opportunities because opportunities usually don’t come very often. If you have an opportunity to stand up in front of a group of people, volunteer for it! You shouldn’t expect yourself to be able to present yourself like Tony Robbins or Zig Ziglar. Just go out there, use a script even if you have to, prepare and rehearse like mad beforehand, and do your best. Don’t forget, you’re not using those opportunities to prove anything. You’re just using them as opportunities to improve yourself and learn. You’re smart.
Don’t worry about how others think (of course, you’re still going to). Think about this, you’re up there presenting, be it on a stage, infront of a camera, or just talking face-to-face with another person, while they are listening to you. You are not in a position of vulnerability. In fact, you’re in a position of great power and responsibility. You’re the one who has the courage to be out there. That, itself, already deserves all the respect and admiration *clap, clap*. If anyone is going to criticize, he is definitely not qualified as your listener, or target audience. He is just a piece of shit and you shouldn’t allow yourself to mind how a piece of shit thinks. However, there will be people out there that will be inspired by what you’ve got to present to them. Those are the people you should focus and give your all, be it good or bad, to.
The funny thing about being conscious about improving and reducing your insecurities is that the more you do it, the better you’ll become. It’s almost just like everything else. Practice makes perfect, as the saying goes. And soon, you’ll be begging for opportunities to be able to showcase your newfound confidence infront of thousands, or even millions, of people.
If you’ve always wanted to do something but have been constantly held back by your own insecurities, try this. Find excuses. Yes, and the lamer your excuses are, the better.
If you’re always worried about how others are judging you, you’re probably the one who’s judging yourself the most.Joel Chua